tbh as a long-time DPS player that switched to heals: no one thanks dps players for doing their job, either. you're more likely to be added by a tank player if you're a good healer than if you're a good dps. you have more selection choices with your group as a healer. even if people do blame you, you can often prove that they're just idiots, and you can just as easily leave and find a new group much faster than any salty DPS ever can. WoW doesn't have a queue system for top content, so you don't really have a penalty for abandoning a party that's screwing up and screaming at you for it. any queued content is so easy that you have to heal like twice in the entire dungeon, and odds are the tank and dps can do that themselves. the dps experience in wow is having to be 3x as good as the other 20 dps signing up for the same single slot as you. the healer experience is "hi i'm a 2k pres evoker in gear that far outstrips this content, if we end up wiping it's your fault and my damage meters can objectively prove it."one of my spiritblooms full-heals the party in low keys provided people aren't floor-licking. and it really is only low keys where i've had people get salty.
high keys, everyone knows that most shit is like. how do i put this. if ur taking a mechanic ur not supposed to, ur dead. all high key dps got there by knowing how to play the game.
my general advice for healers in mmos, i guess, is to get out of mid-range content ASAP. i promise that healer blaming is often correlated to low skill. i have a general rule that if a dps player says one mean word to me in a M+, I wipe the group and then hearth. i'm not here to be abused by players that know they're walking into avoidable mechanics.
(i have rarely done this, i will note, and i only do it if i'm being flamed. if ur nice about it, i will stay through most wipes.)
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