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Not quoting since I've seen this several times and I am too lazy to do so, this brutally honest stuff interests me. I've been told a lot of times I'm brutally honest and respectful but they just don't like the thing I said- henceforth sometimes I'm a 'dick' but I always would love to hear this conversations. The idea of these biases/fallacies are so interesting that I sometimes wonder was I supposed to be a linguistics major. It's so much more of a diverse area and it isn't always that simple. I've been called a dick and brutally honest & respectful. I need to figure it out better so I can personally adapt my speaking style to a less combative version. Not mainly for the internet cause, well I don't honestly care enough most of the time, but for my job mainly. I'm going to t2 for a promotion and I really don't want to deal with people screaming at me and it's my fault cause they dropped their phone in a toilet. Also. I want more crazy calls man. It's so nice. So, the aliens are speaking through the gmail app on your iphone. Please do tell me more, customer. there is a difference between being a straight up dick and being brutally honest - - i usually make the distinction and draw the line at ‘ is what i’m saying beneficial to this person ?? ‘ and a lot of instances can be stopped at ‘ did they ask for my opinion ? ‘ if they didn’t ask , then just don’t say anything , really , especially if you know that what you’re going to say isn’t going to go over well . but if they did ask . . . then they can’t get mad at you for speaking your mind , they asked after all , especially in a business setting as you described !
but of course there are times when you need to tell someone how it is , especially when they’re being either toxic or have a victim mentality . they may not like it at first , but , if they really are wanting to be different , they’ll take your words to heart . this is more of a personal relationship - - again , the other distinction is if you have that person’s best interest in heart . if you’re saying something to them that is going to make them better as a person but they say you’re being a dick , well , 1) you’re being brutally honest and that’s good because you want them to better themselves and 2) if they’re your friend , they’ll get over it .
anyway , i suck at explaining things ?? but i hope this helped !!! lemme know if you need any clarification !!!
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last edit on Dec 16, 2018 17:47:11 GMT by spring
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