But I am glad they came to you politely. I love seeing that since there is a point of helping others learn from actions so they can take action to avoid it in the future. it was in group chat and i dont think they literally meant it triggered them, but probably upsetting and enough to ruin your mood in the enzt 10 mins bc you didnt expect to get so pissed over a fictional character haha. We were a chill community that iโd like to think knew each other decently enough since we were rping for 6+ months there. It is nice to be able to hear and talk about these stuffs without feeling like youโre threadinng on eggshells, for sure But this does remind me of that one time - in the same site - where a newbie came over and pointed out (politely) about how i was using the fc of an actor who passed. It was my first time using irl faces and i ddint know that was ethically inappropriate. Tbh at that moment, i thought i was honoring him but i was leaning on heeding that personโs opinion more bc i know i dodnt know much. I was also a staff at that time and when i quickly admitted i didnt know it and went over to remove the fc asap until i can replace it, they were genuinely stumped for a good minite bx of how easy it was. I could tell they were very nervous and expecting a negative reaction, and they were happy to see i didnt react that way. They had a lot of courage to do that but itโs really sad people have to be this way when theyโre doing the right thing. Because i get it. Especially when youโre pointing out to something to the staff. Even with the ppl who i mentioned we were comfortable with each other, they were hesitant about criticizing the site system that was put in place for the premiseโs main mechanic. I had to reassure them repeatedly i dont care - the point of a system is for the benefit of the community, not for my ego. Maybe bc i have a computer programmer mindset, but thereโs no point of me making a code thatโs supposed to fix your problem if youre on the mindset iโll get hurt for sayong it didnt help you I talked a log about me xD sorry about that but yeah. Itโs great when ppl come forward with issues! And itโs sad when the whole issue with that is bc ppl are afraid of a negative reaction. As i always like to say, you cant control how others react. Which is actually what the therapist of an old friend i had told them and they told me about it and now i talk about kt a lot
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