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Setting clear expectations and not budging weeds out a lot of problems.

If someone blows up and wants to implode over something basic that every member has to do IE activity checks, doing their own XP calcs, whatever your site does that takes very little time... let them.

If someone is super toxic and angry about things that don't matter and they agreed to do, what happens the first time something doesn't go their way IC? What happens when they have an actual disagreement with someone?

The same explosion that happened over the extremely minor thing that they'd rather spend 30 minutes flaming over and trying to bully others into letting slide them not doing it rather than 2 minutes doing except worse. I don't view it as my job to keep anyone who does this, and instead I let them implode all at once and then get rid of them. It's for the best for everyone involved.

People have bad days, but there's a difference between being supportive through a bad day and letting someone abuse you and your members off the site because for some reason you feel like you need them or don't want to deal with the issue.
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double posting but--

how do you tell a site that their lack of posting contributes to your lack of posting even though you're the admin? Like, I know I am supposed to lead by example and post and be active too, but when all of your members are just chilling and leaving threads hanging or seem to have no muse for writing threads/posts, then their lack of interest affects my muse and activity too.

Idk, it's weird.


That's a really rough place to be.

There's a not insignificant % of people who will view that as a personal attack and post less/leave to spite you for saying that, but you know your member base better than us.

I had this talk with my members and we compromised by making an event system that forced people to post or get left behind. I got sick of waiting for people and expressed that and it worked out, but in a different member base people would've felt personally attacked and took their ball and went home. For my site it wasn't the first time I had been brutally honest in my assessment of how things are going and nobody was surprised/offended by it because I always made a point of transparency beforehand so they trusted me enough to give my proposal a shot. We had the biggest 3 month spike the site ever had in activity, and all agreed to have a down period afterwards because the constant post spam got a bit much after that long.

In a forum where you hold your cards close to the chest and don't have that level of trust, it'll be a lot harder. You know your members better than we do, good luck.
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If you want my list hmu. I think I have all the currently active forum RPs on it in the RWBY fandom. We're not exactly big anymore but there's a couple long runners left along with sporadic new ones.
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With the new arc in Hardcore Leveling Warrior my thirst for a site in that setting grows and grows. The intermixing of IRL danger danger sections with shounen in-game OP main character stuff is great.
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was so mad at myself yesterday for not doing any of the coding things i wanted to do before realizing that the last activity i remember doing that was not coding or school was...putting a new desk together like two weeks ago

anyways this is why fuck it days are necessary thanks for coming to my ted talk


Better than me.

I put the desk part of my desk together and couldn't figure out the tray underneath or the side metal things like two months ago and all the parts are in the corner ever since. I never touched them again or thought of them because they're in a corner I never look until I saw this post lmao.

The screws don't seem to be big enough to actually do what the instructions say to do, so it's possible they forget a set of screws. Either that or I was really tired that day and missed something obvious.

We'll know in two months when I remember again and try to finish the desk. The actual desk part is all set up and that's been enough so far.
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It's a pretty common term in tabletop to describe a specific type of character.

I particularly like wikitionary's definition for it.

A clipping and compounding of earlier murderous hobo. It stems from early Usenet discussions observing that Dungeons and Dragons primarily supports a play style in which all of the characters are transients unattached to communities, essentially homeless, and solve problems primarily by killing.


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That'd be my theory as well if I wasn't on a MHA site before that with still very much skewed gender ratios in the same direction. It was less skewed, yeah, but it was still noticeably dominated by women in terms of characters. The w|w fanship for RWBY you're referencing became canon as far as the fandom is concerned by the end of volume 6.

One thing that I think contributed to both sites having such skewed character/activity ratios is simply because every problem murderhobo character I've ever seen was a male character. Every time I thread with one for the first time, for better or for worse, in the back of my head I know there's a chance it's all the worst parts of Sasuke disguised as an OC. Of all the characters who went murderhobo at some point during the lifecycle of both of my last two sites, and likely even further but memories are murkier they were all male characters. Now that I'm trying to think I legitimately cannot think of any non-male OC that went full murderhobo IC on any of my sites ever.

Staff on both sites also had overwhelmingly women OCs as their most played as well, which I assume also plays a role in it. On RWBY I definitely agree it's most pronounced, as the top 5 characters (none of which are staff characters) are all female OCs -- two are in a w|w ship with each other and a third is in a w|w ship with someone else.

One of them hasn't been in any ships and the last one has had three failed hetero ships with three OCs that ended up being problem characters in general. They're literally cursed that any time they enter a ship with someone they become Sasuke in his rebellious and murderous phase.

The combination of staff/member/fandom I think definitely snowballs, because the way you get into fandom is by seeing an all-female main cast and the most active characters are all women so it just kinda rolls from there. I guess I just haven't been in any super male-dominated fandoms in terms of characters. I'd imagine, like, Bleach or DBZ to be super male dominated for example but I could be wrong!

The last time I genuinely remember having a male-dominated cast in an RP site is back in early 2010s in fantasy genre sites who basically forced their interpretation of gender roles historically into their fantasy site in Random Fantasy World. It isn't a surprise that those sites were male dominated, because staff would prevent anyone else from doing all the interesting stuff because "societal norms". Why would you create a world with fireballs and dragons and floating cities and then decide to be so restrictive on the part of the game that every player will actually engage with, smh.
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Just chiming in on an earlier point about NSFW channels.

I don't have them on my sites because I don't want to moderate one and frankly I'm sick of people posting dick pics in them on previous sites. The thing I've always seen is new member gets a little too personal and posts them, or even worse ones from other people. Yeah, like, I can ban them after that but I still saw it and gave someone a platform for it.

I really don't want to see them or be forced to engage with them, even if it only happens once or twice a year. I really don't want to see that.
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(Spoiler: it wasn't easy lol. In fact, it was agony for the first 2 years lol.)


Not going to lie, as someone doing major overhauls at almost the 2 year mark to make events/DMing sustainable long term that was kind of comforting to read.

Will add just for discussion that it took about two months from creating admin account to site opening for me, and the last week or two was just waiting on a theme commission to be completed so that I could open the site before the last episodes of that season came out. I crunched really hard and spent late December/early January basically obsessively working on it with all of my free time to get it into a working condition and did much the same thing in advertising around places to force myself to not delay it to polish random things that nobody but me cared about and just get it out there.
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