couldn't ask for a better code senpai in my wildest dreams, tbh

hi i'm here to be extra

politely requesting a custom gradient for 100 discourse dollars with -

--accent_color_1: rgb(223,104,133);
--accent_color_2: rgb(239,147,87);

thank u! <3

i'll take "lines that are dumb as fuck or raw as hell" for 100, alex (rip king)

i wish i could find a "word of the day" site but for extremely online hobbyist writers

merrian webster i appreciate u for all that u do but i have been reading abt the "winsome" smiles of twinky anime boys long enough to age me prematurely. give me the P R E T E N T I O U S words. "less than 1mil results on google" words. "labelled as 'archaic' by google dictionary" words. "microsoft word marks it as a misspelling" words. i am tired of my writing being """"clear"""". i want to be O B S C U R E.

can i just say i love love LOVE the recent trend of people posting their graphic design work here

no pressure on anyone ofc i just don't look @ enough pretty things and everything that's been posted recently is :chefskiss:

screams @ myself trying to wind down after four fuckin lectures in one day and instead coming back to this bc i was designated YA protagonist at birth i fuckin guess

i sometimes get the impression i am someone people envy / look up to, in regards to """success""" in rp, and for whatever my fuckin' take is worth, i think the secret to success in rp is absolutely this.

rather than expecting people to be who they're not, i think it's better in the long run to take things as they are, and to use sudden community shakeups as an opportunity to work on your crisis management skills.

people are unpredictable. because people are unpredictable, unpredictable things happen in communities, and sometimes that leads to the creation of problems in your life.

getting emotional about a problem doesn't fix a problem. i think you should allow yourself to get emotional about a problem, but i think you should do it with the awareness that it isn't going to fix the problem, and i would very much recommend not trying to fix the problem until you feel like you're through it emotionally. (and, i'm editing to say: my personal policy on the matter is "if i'm still bothered about this in a week, i'll deal with it then." i have had to deal with a problem on this front a grand total of once.)

assigning blame for a problem, on yourself or others, doesn't fix a problem.

talking about a problem doesn't fix a problem.

the only way to fix a problem is to figure out a way to fix. the. problem.

and i think the best way to fix problems in rp is to understand that you are not obligated to anything in rp. full stop. all of us have lives outside of internet - this is a hobby we all invest precious free time in until the climate wars kick off. so the best solutions to problems, imo, rely on putting on your girl/boy/themboss hat and to #getshitdone.

is that easier said and done, is there probably someone reading this who wants to hit me with a "we can't all be neurotypical, karen" - and, i would like to disclaim, if anyone tries to come at me with that, i am going to body them - and is that significantly more fear-inducing than coping with the problem by not fixing the problem? yes - and, again, hobby, free time, and i'm not particularly in the business of judging people. but does that work do wonders for your health, and the health of your community as a whole? anecdotally speaking - yes. 100%.

i am honored i inspired the desire for creation 😭😭😭

+1 tho, this is def the tldr of my bullshit, and im manifesting this for 2022 in the same way i manifested playable miss yae miko in jenshin impact

fkjdsjkfdsajkfdslajk okay i was being my version of Nice in the first post i made here (and ftr, take the fact that i'm quoting you directly as a sign that i respect you && please read this as me, like, grabbing your hand and like holding it up IRL) so now i'm gonna go apeshit -

the sites that go the distance are the sites that are not afraid to fucking boot people. omens has booted people. good communities are lead by good managers, and good managers fucking get rid of people when they're becoming a problem and show no intention of fixing said problem. sure, people get mad when they think they're being told they're a problem, and they might cope with being Mad by throwing a fit - but you, as a staff team, don't have to Deal with that. you can just boot someone and let them melt down about it somewhere else.

and, if you're a good - y'know what i don't like the connotations of that word going into this, so i'm gonna say secure manager, you don't tend to boot people unless they're legitimately an insecure person. insecure people who want to be secure will probably take getting booted as a learning experience, as (i think!) you did. insecure people who are fine where they're at are going to be pissed at you for all eternity, but that's their problem to deal with, so let them be miserable. please let 2022 be the year staff just boot people. 

this ain't a vague, because i genuinely don't remember who it was and i can't be assed to double check, but someone said the word 'inclusivity' in regards to rp yesterday, and i've been dwelling on it

[insert "selkie doesn't have a superiority complex she's just mean and loud" disclaimer]

you know what you call a community that's all inclusive? a community with no boundaries. you know what you call a community with no boundaries? unhealthy, and - in my own opinion - unsustainable.

i've watched quite a few sites come and go in my time, and from what i remember from the ones still ongoing, or the ones that didn't violently explode via keeping up with the pixel perfectians (chaos theory, event horizon, hoenn, and zugzwang are specifically what come to mind) the sites that go the distance are the sites where the staff team is willing to say "this is the decision we have made, and we are not going to budge on this," politely, but firmly, show anyone who disagrees with said decision the door, and continue on with business as usual.

i feel like a lot of staff teams are afraid to do this, and i understand why staff teams are afraid to do this. we, as human beings, want to be Liked by other human beings. but, fundamentally, in order to be liked by every other human being - in order to be all inclusive - you need to exist as a person who has zero boundaries. trying to exist that way, in my (very) humble opinion, is going to do more damage to you, and your community, in the long run.

i agree with you on this, ftr, but counterpoint -

people get pissed when they think they're being told they're handling something immaturely. when immature people get pissed, they cope with it by acting in immature ways, and that's how sites blow up.

ctrl+c ctrl+v 'i don't think my opinion on the matter has any more or less weight than your opinion on the matter', but if a staff team looks at a character/series/etc and sees the potential for a massive community management headache they'd rather not worry about, i'd consider 'yeah i'm not going to risk dealing with that, so if you want to write that, this isn't the place for it, good luck' to be a form of self-respect & establishing clear expectations, particularly when there's plenty of fish in the sea re: panfandoms.

something something "regulations are written in blood" but blood is people getting really really REALLY mad about things online

basically the opposite of last post, but ctrl+f'ed through past posts on a hunch
im a stone cold bitch, but at least im a consistent stone cold bitch

paid aff for WO!



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thank you <3

i was today years old when i checked off "commit an act of domestic terrorism" and "kill another person's PC" off my rp bucket list.

with two different people, in two different threads. screams. (spoilering this one bc it contains a reference to gun violence in america but i just. cannot get over this)