insecure people who are fine where they're at are going to be pissed at you for all eternity, but that's their problem to deal with, so let them be miserable. please let 2022 be the year staff just boot people. 

this ain't a vague, because i genuinely don't remember who it was and i can't be assed to double check, but someone said the word 'inclusivity' in regards to rp yesterday, and i've been dwelling on it

[insert "selkie doesn't have a superiority complex she's just mean and loud" disclaimer]

you know what you call a community that's all inclusive? a community with no boundaries. you know what you call a community with no boundaries? unhealthy, and - in my own opinion - unsustainable.

i've watched quite a few sites come and go in my time, and from what i remember from the ones still ongoing, or the ones that didn't violently explode via keeping up with the pixel perfectians (chaos theory, event horizon, hoenn, and zugzwang are specifically what come to mind) the sites that go the distance are the sites where the staff team is willing to say "this is the decision we have made, and we are not going to budge on this," politely, but firmly, show anyone who disagrees with said decision the door, and continue on with business as usual.

i feel like a lot of staff teams are afraid to do this, and i understand why staff teams are afraid to do this. we, as human beings, want to be Liked by other human beings. but, fundamentally, in order to be liked by every other human being - in order to be all inclusive - you need to exist as a person who has zero boundaries. trying to exist that way, in my (very) humble opinion, is going to do more damage to you, and your community, in the long run.