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I don't think disagreement on how people sort relationships is discourse, lol. I think people are disagreeing on how they sort friends/friendly relationships. Also "parasocial" just means a relationship with someone you personally don't know or a character. They don't even have to be real, you can be parasocial with a book character. Most people you know, in passing, only know facets of your character. So this could certainly be "have a relationship with someone you don't know" as if you don't know a lot of facets, then you can learn them, but if you only end up learning one side, then no you don't know the person that well. The way I am using this specific word is to say I don't share a lot of myself online so a lot of people don't know me all that well.
Again, I was pointing out how other people do not have to accept anything done. Again, how other people use the word friend is very much a social, linguistic, semantic, and etc - to most people. People are into calling each other friend and think people like me are monsters or uncaring. I don't care what they think? I'm not going to go be mean to someone but I'm also not going to sit here and pretend otherwise. I play games with plenty of random people, I watch tv, say happy birthday, cause that's the basic requirement for me to be friendly - like I would in a office, or whatever. However, I don't think I'm going to be showing them my blood test results or letting them borrow money. Voice chats and games do not a friend make, they're starting points for a friend. Just like - a bit derogatory in this context - "rp friends" are more than people who just took my want ad. They could be someone on three or four sites, they could be there for two or three years, idk, but yes, I would consider having a boundary to be natural and healthy. Some people have a boundary not to trauma dump. Is okay if they're "friends"? No.
I think it's funny that people do so and like I said as this didn't have to do with rp in the first place and it was actually a gaming thing where someone added me like I was their friend, I was not. Hence, I had thought it was a good conversation stater to remind that you and I are different and respecting people's boundaries is good and swell~ If you feel the need to make deep connections with people, I hope people make deep connections for you so you can be happy! I don't need to wrap myself around anyone to have emotional connections that support me, instead for me, we figure out each other and then slowly become friends. Curate your own friends, your experience, and your life how you see fit, as long as you respect others to do so!
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