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what is/are your irl character development/s?

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In short? Emotional regulation.

Normally a job does something to greatly upset me and I wind up forced to job hunt early out of necessity due to my productivity nosediving. My current job has threatened to do that to me at least two times now, and is veering on a third, but a combination of ADHD diagnosis, therapy, and medication has given the needed ability to step back from the intensity of my feelings and just... let a job be a job.

Similarly I was a highly anxious person for a long time, and it's strange to realize that anxiety is no longer the way I motivate myself. Instead I try and rebuild the structure of my routine to better facilitate my success. It's not always successful, and I have good and bad days, but the anxiety took a toll on me and it's a relief not to have it weighing on me now.

If I'm to be honest, a big improvement as well has been understanding the difference between empathizing with others and taking too much responsibility for other people's feelings. I can sense a distinct shift in how I handle other people's emotions. It used to make me viscerally uncomfortable to know people were upset with me, and I'd find myself doing everything I could to try and 'fix' the problem, regardless of whether or not that blame was actually fair to me. Taking a step back from people's intense feelings and focusing on what I can control is something I'm getting better at every day, though it's still a struggle.

There's a lot I'd like to improve upon in my life, but this change between my twenties and my thirties has been a positive one.
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i know you see yourself as a fighter. well, i see myself as one, too.


feeling like scott pilgrim gaining life skills by saying my biggest char dev currently has been learning how to advocate for myself more (and actually following through on it!)

like if not me for me then whomst

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Learning that taking a break from roleplay does not mean not writing at all. I took a few years’ break between sites and continued to write on my own. This has made me feel much more artistically secure when coming back into the hobby. I’m generally grateful for long breaks between sites now.

And also justβ€”living a life, connecting with loved ones more, keeping a little diary, eating better, light exercise. All those things old people tell us to do and we shrug off until we realize they’re kinda right. Add therapy to that too, since older people tend to not include that in their bullet points of unwarranted advice.

I know what kind of artist I am now because my non-art life is tended to more attentively than when I was in university, and that artistic security is something I’m grateful for.
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sometimes, things that are edgy are cool
learned that i am, unfortunately as someone said to me, the root of my own problems :) not in the way that im a terrible awful person but in a way that i have to be the one to improve things for myself and unless i do, i will not make progress! following this philosophy i made new friends, got more interested in more experiences, learned to be more comfortable being alone again, learned how to reach out to people - a lot of come to jesus moments i fear.

it was not the lesson that they wanted me to take from that at all, but i think mine is better tbh
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3 months ago I quit playing video games and started working on physical fitness. Writing has started to feel good again too, I think gaming was really affecting my ability to feel dopamine from other sources.
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