I feel your pain, there. Gaslighting was the term I was looking for but forgot, and it's definitely not a fun thing to get every inconvenience suddenly turned around for it to be your fault and your fault alone through mental gymnastics done at the Olympic level.

With your point about the activity checks, it's the same thing with basic stuff like Face Claims for me. If I notice, I just add them in there because I feel like it's less work sometimes than confronting someone -- and if I do it and there's no change then I just 'solve' the problem by doing the stuff for them in the future. It's one of those things where like, yeah, they're disrespecting you but it's also minor enough to where I don't want to put down my flag and die on my sword over it should things go sour -- y'know?

So if someone's cat dies twelve times for twelve activity checks, I'll just do it. The activity checks don't really bother me as much, because at the end of the day I just offer some free stuff for doing it and if people don't... they simply don't get the small hand out which is fine by me. It's the Face Claims and other stuff that slips through the cracks that infuriates me, because especially when a site's big enough to get waves of 10-20 apps at a time one of the few times I will get legitimately angry over 'small stuff' is when a guest comes in wanting an FC/Power/something that should have been claimed and goes through all the effort of making a char with not a peep from the other person during the process and no claim -- and then getting mad when the new person has an overlapping <insert claim here> and suddenly comes out of the wood work to say that people 'should have known'.

I'm a staffer, not the NSA. I know all the people I thread with and the people I grade and the characters of people I shoot the breeze with on the discord. If you've never threaded with me and I've never graded your apps/threads and we've never interacted OOC, of course I don't know your character. It's your responsibility to do your claims, darn it!

@sylvia

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Guilt trips.

They work on me way more than I'd like to admit, and it has been abused quite a bit this past year. I've gotten a lot better about not falling for it, but oh boy it's a trip when people realize the best angle to mess with you and prevent you from actually standing up for yourself and just relentlessly smash at it until you can't tell up from down.

If people scream and yell at me, that's fine. I can react to that and it doesn't bother me. It's kind of the 'default' I expect. It's when people bring in some really rough IRL stuff to justify their actions (real or imagined, idk I'm not the FBI I can't verify it) as to why they're acting like a jerk and I just buy it a decent chunk of the time hook, line, and sinker. Be a total jerk and I'll put my foot down, but if you spin a story about how your dog died that morning and your house was almost burnt down by an electrical fire and your rent payment is looming and you don't know how you're going to deal with it -- I'm going to feel bad and be much less willing to be upset.

When that all happens once every two weeks, though, and just so happening to coincide with a 'crappy person defense' every time for a few months... eeeeeeehhhhhh.

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Thank you! (:

Currently on track for a mid/late February public open. Still actively working on this!

In no particular order:

Full Metal Alchemist: Brotherhood - Gold standard even today IMO. Made me cry.

Teen Titans: Yo I loved this series as a kid and like it even as an adult. It dealt with intense, real topics in a way a kid could understand and had dark plot lines that fucked me up back then like Beast Boy/Terra. Made me cry.

My Hero Academia: I really love this very optimistic sort of setting and also made me cry. Noticing a theme yet?

RWBY: A1 and made me cry a bunch of times. Takes a similar concept to MHA and gives the characters much more freedom in a darker setting.

Naruto: Gotta put my formative anime here, classics like Gaara vs. Rock Lee and Sasuke vs. Itachi will be remembered forever!

If you like Shounen and somehow haven't seen it -- My Hero Academia.

If you wanted more team-based action and more student freedom without being told 'No' all the time by authority figures, try out RWBY.

If you're looking for something to watch and like big set piece action scenes and don't care if the plot makes any sense, try out Fate/Apocrypha.

Heights are spooky. I hate in airports where they have the 2 escalators with the glass separating them and sometimes nothing else there to block your vision. I don't have enough self control to not look down so I do this weird ass crouch to try and make myself as hard to knock over as possible like suddenly I'm gonna get flicked off or something.

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I'm usually a one character per site person, but I suddenly have myself having a ton of character ideas now that I've stepped out of the 'box' I've occupied in the past two and a half years.

Seriously. Shadow construction users for two and a half years across multiple genres. You have no idea how excited I am to play literally anything different at this point. It was a good run and I loved writing all the ways that power could be used, but it's been long enough.

Now if I could only decide on what to use instead that'd be great. It turns out when you go from 'that one power I always have' to 'I wanna try something new'... 'something new' is vast and it's like going into a gadget store and deciding whether you want a giant mecha you pilot, giant robot that acts on its own, or a doomsday device. I want all of theeeem

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