i mean. i've not been on either of your sites but.

for me, the biggest make-or-break for a site i've already joined is, well, whether or not i get a plot i'm invested in. if i have a plot that i really like and am excited to play out, i typically tend to stay on a site (barring if there's suddenly bad staff / a problem member). if i run out of that "new site steam" and i don't have a plot i care enough for to stay, i tend to leave.

it's nothing personal, i just. have been in way too many situations where i stuck around on sites i wasn't invested in because i was holding out hope for xyz want ad to get taken but it never was and i was just wasting time i could have spent on sites that were giving me what i wanted so. yeah. life's too short to wait around forever for something that isn't sparking joy.

sometimes i almost wish i would have a reason why they left (from the perspective of "man if there's a common problem for why people are leaving, i wish i could know so i could try to fix it") but. then i contemplate the sheer amount of anxiety i would have in response to that and know that it's for the best that i don't.

now i just wish that when people dip out of the site, they would take the five minutes beforehand to tell someone they're leaving before they do. i'm not gonna be mad and i don't even need a reason for why. i just want the chance to be able to clear the claims out + reopen things up (like want ads) before the next activity check, y'know?