all i have to add to the conversation is...
if you see someone behaving towards someone else in a way that you feel is not right (being 'toxic', bullying, etc.) - please step in and help defend them.
we want to call this a community but the fear of conflict or whatever is preventing people to help step up for others hurts more than it helps. like, yeah - no one wants to fight or add to the problem at hand. but i feel the community would be perceived as less 'toxic' and more supportive if we all kept an eye out for each other instead of watching people get torn down.
i'm not saying this happens as a common occurrence but it's just something i've experienced myself and i know other people have experienced it as well.
even with staff, if you see or hear about an issue between your members - don't wait until the last minute to address the issue, don't take sides (even if it's your friends involved), and try to mediate to the best of your ability. like my mom always said - there are always two sides and the truth / what really happened. but all sides are valid even if you don't want them to be.
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