phantom of the black parade
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Ok but, realistically, how many people are up to doing this? I think it's a natural and human reaction to say "If you, random internet person, enthusiastically enjoy writing [thing that is my ick], then I have a low opinion of your taste in general and I don't want to write with you or read anything you write." (I am someone who generally is not bothered by disturbing fictional content, who is well aware of the existence of the "block" button if there are members I wish to disengage from entirely with a minimum of drama - and I definitely don't trust the vast majority of people in my rp servers with the "uncensored version" of all the scenarios I imagine placing my ocs in.) Maybe it's different if you're already good friends irl, you trust each other not to cross boundaries, you know that they are a whole person whose personality encompasses more than the most controversial topics they want to plot out. But the majority of us aren't going to have that context, which I imagine is why a lot of admins put hard bans on certain topics on their sites in the first place. gonna quickly clarify since y'know. it's quoting me, it's directly in response to me, and it's definitely putting words in my mouth that aren't actually there.
i'm not saying that you (general) shouldn't be allowed to side-eye someone who wants to write.... honestly, literally anything. heaven knows i would to find out someone was writing, idk, a super in-depth thread about cannibalism (which is one of my big personal "icks"). and it is always (general) your decision to write/interact with someone for any reason, no matter what it is, the same way that it is your decision to place + enforce limits on what you personally are able + willing to write.
what i'm saying is that on a site-wide level, i don't see a problem with permitting even the most extreme content so long as the people wanting to engage with it are taking every single precaution to very clearly label it for what it is, are being conscious about not exposing people to it in unavoidable public areas, and are otherwise just generally able to distinguish the difference between fantasy + reality and keep it that way. or, to put it another way - i should have to knowledgeably open the thread and continue reading past the warnings to find the content, i shouldn't randomly stumble across it in general channels of the discord (yes, including general rp channels), and anyone who is an actual legitimate problem/predator should get yeeted.
(plus, i mean, let's be honest here. even if someone wants to write the most messed up possible content, they would still have to find someone else willing to write it with them. and if by some miracle they do, a lot of the rest of the community they're in is probably going to naturally avoid them for exactly the reason you pointed out. if the person is actually a problem, sure, boot them + delete the content, but like... if it's just a few people existing in a corner doing their own thing + no one is being harmed by it unless they are deliberately going looking to be harmed, i don't feel like it's worth my time as a staffer to intervene + i am going to be massively peeved as a member if a staffer does.)
again, to be clear, i agree with you in that i don't think there's a huge population of people clamoring to write extreme content either (or at least, not in public). no, really, i don't. i truly think the vast majority of people don't want to, and i also truly think that of the people who would, most of them are going to self-censor to some degree specifically out of fear of that side-eye or people avoiding them for it. (plus like imo i do think there is a harm in diluting warnings about legitimate predators in the rpc by co-mingling them with, idk, writing two teenagers being intimate or liking a problematic series or whatever else, but that's a whole different other topic.)
but like, idk. it might be the fact that i grew up in the "don't like? don't read!" era of fanfic (and trust me, i have seen some gods awful stuff posted out there, whether i click on it or not) or maybe the fact that i primarily play canons and thus deal with the additional stupidity of "i don't control how old characters are in canon, i don't control what the actual creators do with the canon story, and i do not control what these creators say or do in their outside lives that might be a problem". but i'd much rather trust in people (who are mostly other adults who have all been saying for forever now that in-character actions/thoughts do not equal out-of-character beliefs/endorsements) to curate their own experiences, enforce their own boundaries with their partners (or non-partners), and otherwise just enable that behavior in others.
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