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I think the most painful thing about working...is not agreeing morally with some of the policies!! And then you have to message clients pretending you are all for it.......when in fact you are dying inside, ahhhh!!!
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Relatively recent, client needed to cancel their order wanted all their money back because their poor children were riddled with illnesses that sent them to the hospital so their trip was canceled. I felt all the feels for this person, and convinced my boss to refund them despite it going against our service agreement.

Only to be made a fool of later on by finding an ad by said person who just got someone cheaper to do the same work and that's the real reason they canceled. Best kicker of all they don't even have kids who can be deathly sick.

So...yeah crappy 'people' lesson learned, have to follow policies regardless of what a person tells me, and it sucks because I just want to do nice things for people in need.
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Sometimes people leave, and that's okay, it can hurt, it can suck. But maybe even though no words were exchanged, maybe they did it for their own benefit, and in the end that's what will help them the most. If you care about the person then you can respect that need and hope for the future that maybe one day you'll see them again. I miss you friend and I hope where ever life takes you, that you're safe and are happy.
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Outside, the sky transitioned from the vibrant hues of the afternoon sun to the velvety darkness of the night, casting a gentle stillness over the land.
P.s this is cheating because it's my best friend's writing not mine, lol. But she gave me permission!!

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Anyone else having issues with their notifications? All of mine are turned on but when I just found a post where someone quoted me but I had no notification at all. Lol the irony of this is someone is going to quote me answer and I won't it. Oof. Well if I miss anyone's reply I apologize about that. 
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As someone who conducts interviews now at my new job, I can say that it's given me a new perspective. I have a sheet of question I need to go through, and throughout it 1 or 2 are crucial enough that if the candidate doesn't answer them properly, I'm to speed through the rest because they are an immediate no.

I always thought those who make site layouts/templates would excel in getting work pertaining to it because of the monumental talent they have to do what they do. But it's sad to know that the industry like so many others is not kind.
sorry to double post but i just wanted to comment!

as someone who's also hired ppl i think it's a little dismissive to completely write someone off for one or two fudged questions. what if they're nervous, or what if they're bad at interviewing? and if you keep them for the rest of the interview, you're wasting everyone's time really. that's just...being a decent person imo.

and people are really talented at layouts/templates in the rpc! it's just not enough to compromise the entire skillset of what a graphic designer needs. you really need to consider things like branding & identity, logos, illustrations, and so on. it's like hiring a programmer because you can code templates! it helps, but you need a more varied skillset.

while i don't deny that the industry is tough, there are plenty of ppl who are willing to share their knowledge if you're interested in becoming a good designer!


As someone who has a best friend with pretty bad anxiety, I completely understand this and no matter the question I feel the interview as a whole should be considered. But I'm new and so I have to follow the current rules before I can add in my own suggestions!

Though I will say the 2 questions they judge harshly make sense to me. 1, is how satisfied you are with life. Since you work with animals they can't afford someone who is unhappy because it will impact the pets. And 2, what kind of pay are you looking for! They've found in the past if the person expects something high, they tend to quit the job very quickly when it doesn't meet their expectations and this is hard on the animals since they bond with the employees who take care of them.

But as mentioned, it just opened my eyes that in an interview there can be certain questions that make or break your ability to get hired. I never knew that before...I guess I was naΓ―ve!
pronounsD A R K
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Death is just a new beginning.
As someone who conducts interviews now at my new job, I can say that it's given me a new perspective. I have a sheet of question I need to go through, and throughout it 1 or 2 are crucial enough that if the candidate doesn't answer them properly, I'm to speed through the rest because they are an immediate no.

I always thought those who make site layouts/templates would excel in getting work pertaining to it because of the monumental talent they have to do what they do. But it's sad to know that the industry like so many others is not kind.
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I got a job, a work at home job. I can't believe it. I've got six months of training ahead of me and I'm over the moon about it.
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Sometimes I really hate the way I am especially when I know there are countless others in the same position as me and they are doing fine. Is it in my genes, the way I was raised a combination of both? Who knows, all I know is one minute I'm fine, the next I'm questioning everything I am.

An example of this madness is, I make a post, no likes, someone else makes a similar post bam likes. Suddenly I'm questioning my worth, and hating the liking system, thinking it's a popularity contest! And then finally settling down and realizing how dramatic and ridiculous I'm being. But the feelings when they come are so strong and consuming. And then I just feel exhausted after it all, and think about all the posts that have 0 likes, and the people behind them don't care.

I mean there are some really cool people on here that I secretly admire because of how free they appear online, like no insecurities ever bother them...but maybe that's just how they present themselves, and they are actually like me (most of the time), fretting and keeping it hidden from others.

I just wanted to write about this. I hope maybe next time I'm feeling dumb like this I can read back this exposing message of my inner workings and not feel so worked up.
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order mcdonalds what u want yall
None for me just some good company please! p.s I'll probably steal some of your fries. β™₯
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Reconnecting with people is an incredible thing. It's why I never change my name. I'm always hoping someone from the past will see me and say hi, if I don't beat them to it, lol. β™₯
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Pretty much an entire post...but when you're proud, you're proud. \o/
The cutting words of the woman who had raised him echoed like a voice that would never know silence within the corner of his mind. She hated his abnormality, and made a mockery of the way he was, but her words had long since lost their power. Her actions, however, were deeply engraved within his being. And of all the terrible things she said would come true, being abusive was ultimately his sin.

β€œIf you can so easily throw away something that was once important to you…Then isn’t that exactly what will happen to me?”

Punishing to the core, he felt the truth of his argument cord through him like a physical assault. He, had uttered one of his deepest failures and it burned like a festering wound.

β€œI don’t care what you think,” he mirrored an earlier statement, his voice a harsh whisper, his brows snapping downward into a distraught frown. What sounded counterproductive, was merely a coping mechanism. Caring would only stop him, it would leave him stranded with just another want that he couldn’t grasp.

β€œIf you wanted stability,” he began, tone laced with his inner struggles as he brought his masculine and piercing gaze onto the other. β€œThen I’m the last person you should have given a second chance to.”
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i used the term "baby's first rp site" as a quick shorthand to cover a lot more ground than simply "someone new to rping" since, for example, people who come from other platforms (like discord or tumblr) or are returning to the forum rp community after a very long time often require a similar amount of hand-holding + gentle correcting for "basic" things that is super time-consuming and exhausting to handle, even if they may have a general idea of rp etiquette or navigating forum software; they're also tons more likely to show up on a site than someone who is brand new to rping, in my experience, so not including them is doing a huge disservice to the spirit of the original scream into the void sentiment i expressed in the op. (and, plot twist, i very obviously don't use that phrasing on my site since it's not something i would use out of context + only used it here on pixel in a staff confessions thread for the purpose i just explained + with enough context to be understood.)

but also the situation is actually a whole lot more messy than "just say you're not a good site for beginning rpers but there's lots of other sites that are accommodating". while that's a good way to handle it privately on an individual basis after the member has started the application process, it's definitely not something that's going to work to put in a site's rules section or description area for fairly obvious reasons.

however, using labels like "literate / semi-literate" or "intermediate / advanced" to try to convey that message instead also gets messy between esl rpers often feeling like it targets them (which it often isn't meant to), regular rpers taking it as a red flag that a site staff are elitist jerks (which it may not necessarily be), the labels not really getting at what they need to (since most people don't realize returning rpers or platform-hoppers are often in a similar boat to beginning rpers), and people just generally not realizing that they would fall into that beginner category (since imo most people don't tend to think of themselves as beginners, even if they recognize they're new to this or might need a little more help than someone more familiar with the format + culture).


tl;dr, it's really hard to communicate that a site isn't really a good place to integrate someone who isn't generally familiar with current forum rp culture + norms when the labels we try to use to communicate this often get interpreted as a red flag by people it's not meant to be catching and interpreted as not applying to them by people it is, and boy howdy does that make me want to stare into a void every time i then have to have the staff discussion of "do we need to be talking to this person privately or are we just gonna deal with it?"
out of curiousity:

what does it mean to be "beginner friendly"?

what does a site need to be accommodating to new rp'ers?

what are the "basics"?



like i know a lot of people that started out on Neopets, because that was the ONLY option. we've moved a long way from that. but like... you gotta start somewhere. and we're all using jcink or proboards, so personally, navigating forum software/interfaces doesn't factor in for me as whether or not something is for beginners.



i do agree that literate/intermediate/advanced does rub me the wrong way, for the some of the reasons you've mentioned. and i'm not necessarily looking for a better alternative. i'm just curious as to what it means to be beginner friendly, and if you (used generally) aren't willing to be someone's first, then what should people look for?

I really love the line "You gotta start SOMEWHERE". I think for some long-time writers, they tend to have a short fuse with new people/writers/etc. But honestly we've all made every mistake in the rp 'rule' book and once upon a time there were a lot more places to learn. I remember when I had my site years ago, I lost count of how many people personally messaged me thanking me and telling me of the horror stories they experienced just because they were new to the hobby. We talk about lack of sites, and a smaller member base, but I feel like that's just because we're not as welcoming as we once were when rping was shiny and new. And I have a lot of experience with this because I've brought a lot of new members in, from real life, or from other platforms. And a lot of them fall off of it because of negativity they encounter.

I don't know, it just bothers me because I mean I read a ton of novels and mangas, shows etc that I can completely relate to someone writing for the very first time, so I don't fully get the issue. It might be hard or annoying, but no one here would still be writing if you joined the community only to be told sorry your to much of a toddler to write on our site, find somewhere else.