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Staffing Confessions written Oct 10, 2021 17:03:32 GMT
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Oct 10, 2021 16:56:02 GMT said:
What are everyone's thresholds for banning someone? I know most people do a "strike" system but is there any time you would just forgo that because someone is just... So awful?

I personally think if someone is causing disruptions in the community, maybe not breaking rules but going into an active safe space and handing out passive aggressive remarks, but also just being rude to everyone. I say cut the loss, if they're harming the community's vibe. But I'd like to get more opinions about such things. It is always great to hear other ideas!


im never quick to ban anyone. most people get a few warnings before i would even consider it. on our site we like to try to work things out with people if there is any behavior we don't find acceptable. to have as open communication as we can so that way the person knows right away.

multiple serious offenses or complaints about one person or a group of people, i'd consider letting them go. but before banning, i'd just ask them to leave rather than using such a system.
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Staffing Confessions written Oct 9, 2021 2:42:01 GMT via mobile
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Oct 8, 2021 21:26:32 GMT said:
As a staff member, I often prefer it for members to come to me when they're having problems with other members. But I am a bit of a control freak and have always been a mediator in all kinds of situations. It is a bit taxing on my own stress levels, but if it means there is avoided drama in the general populous then it's fine. I like to know how my members are feeling both individually and as a whole. We're a community and it's important to stay that way.


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Staffing Confessions written Oct 8, 2021 5:58:04 GMT
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I just think it's nice for staff to know if someone is having a problem with someone else so forbid something does happen we're aware beforehand.

I wouldn't force anybody to come to staff. if they can handle it on their own then they should. But if someone truly needs help with the situation I think it's fine for staff to help them. In my experience it actually makes it less stressful for people.

But if it isn't a problem related to the site then there really isn't any reason for staff to get involved unless the problem is affecting the site as a whole.
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Post a Random Thought written Oct 3, 2021 21:44:27 GMT
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it feels really good to just go through the house and scrub everything down sometimes. i feel really good, super motivated, and just... happy to exist in this clean space.

also, as someone who hated driving... i... love it now? it's so wild to me. like i'm so excited to get into the car now. it's very liberating.
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Post a Random Thought written Sept 26, 2021 4:23:08 GMT
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Sept 26, 2021 1:37:51 GMT said:
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Sept 25, 2021 23:13:38 GMT said:
are a lot of sites just like. dying around this time or is it just me? lol

i feel like whenever i check one out its barely hanging on orz
fr ive been dying for something alive, old or new, and it's just everything dying slowly that idk where to go lol


i don't know if you or would be interested but fukai mori (linked in my signature) is doing really well right now. we have a pretty big, diverse community that is very much alive and growing.
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Post a Random Thought written Sept 23, 2021 2:33:18 GMT
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Sept 23, 2021 0:38:48 GMT said:
Ever been publicly shamed about your posting speed and then it just ruins your mood? I was so ready to catch up on posts but then. Yeah. That happened.

But that was yesterday and today is a new day. A surprisingly good day! I'll be productive AFTER FFXIV though hehe~


yes and it sucks so much. i'm w. you girl. it's like if i'm posting too slow or too fast for someone, let me know in private. oTL
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Post a Random Thought written Sept 22, 2021 21:32:49 GMT
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Sept 22, 2021 18:07:39 GMT said:
taking a self care day and spending some money to get some new clothes. i was under the mistaken impression that it would be fun.

am i the only one who finds this stressful? xD


i always go into clothes shopping with a fantastic mindset that it's going to be fun and i'll find all these cute outfits. then... it all turns into chaos and so much stress! esp with online shopping. i have better luck in stores. u A u
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Post a Random Thought written Sept 21, 2021 8:49:06 GMT via mobile
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Sept 21, 2021 2:42:30 GMT said:
when you don't feel connected anymore - just breathe - and then you realise it's all in your head


vayu out here calling me out on pixel-perfect.boards.net like this...

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i want my 25 cents back
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Post a Random Thought written Sept 17, 2021 6:47:14 GMT
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when you most certainly have friends but feel like you're always standing a mile away from everyone and are just only able to watch.

kind of like a fancy lamp whose novelty ran out.

a midnight mood.