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There’s this Filipino restaurant that I just learned about that I wanna try, but they don’t have a website. I’m also extremely white and American Midwestern so idk what to get. I’m down for suggestions for things to try if I see them on the menu
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one of my major turn offs is when people can't be bothered to be read my app- or even skim it. in a perfect world, everyone would match everyone's effort at all times, good or bad- but that's just not how it is and that's fine but i just raise a brow when someone i'm planning to do like, more than just a one off thread with can't be bothered to read my app. it definitely makes me less inclined to want to write with you if i feel like i am having to repeat things that are all written in the app that i wrote. and it's not like we're asking for you to write an essay or take a test about the character after either. it's one of those rp etiquette things that exists for a reason, imo.
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For me, coding is the obvious one. I started coding bc I started roleplaying and had to learn how to do apps on my neopet’s pet pages so I could rp in my warriors rp guilds and I think for a lot of us coders, we have similar origin stories. You kinda have to have at least a baseline understanding of code in order to rp it feels like. I enjoy coding, but I do think it often detracts from what I originally started doing this all for; which was to rp lmao. 

aside from that, I love video games. I’m not the most confident when it comes to canon rp, but it’s no coincidence that most of the characters I feel comfortable writing as are video game characters. I think it being a slightly more interactive experience makes it easier for me to feel confident in knowing the character’s personality? I dunno. 
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Idk why but a (at least once) large band using art from an artist you recognize from artstation is so funny to me. Like good for anato finnstark. Get your bag girl
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this is how i find out that cttw is closing? i'm so tired. i'm tired of people taking from the community and not contributing in anyway shape or form, but then talking about how toxic or bad it is. i hope something will pop up to take caution's place, but i...sincerely doubt that. no one wants to help anyone anymore, bc they end up as being targets for people's vitriol for some reason.
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Having surgery to remove the tumor on the 8th. From there we'll see how things go. I couldn't be more nervous.
Good luck man. I hope it goes well.
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oh. I had to look up the other day how long on average it takes to cannibalize a whole human corpse. that was a time.
lmao this was for my character, i feel so special 
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it is really nice to not feel like you're gonna get your hands bitten off for poking around in skin coding to test things/gain knowledge regarding features.

i know and understand that coding is sacred to people, but at the same time... co-admining is a joint effort, and i'd also like to be able to handle basic things/be able to help update so its not just one big burden on one person's shoulders.

anyway. it is very nice. getting it right feels good, too.

tbh the only way you can learn how people did certain techniques is to look at the source code. it's the execution that matters. if you're just c/p'ing strings of code and not actively trying to remember how to write those codes, then it becomes a problem. but when you're just poking around and using ctrl z... i see no issue in it.
piggybacking off of what lua said, it's about your intent that actually matters. if it weren't for people like neko, thunderstruck and others, i never would have learned how to do squat. it really irritates me that people have conveniently seemed to have forgotten how they learned to code when it comes to the new generation of people wanting to learn and they go and gatekeep things like resources, or just pretend that they did not or don't right click inspect sites to see how someone did something. it's dishonest and frankly, lame to lie about it. it discourages people who are still learning and it just makes you look like an elitist. 
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so ever since that discussion thread about people not reading apps, and how people write too much for their character's histories, i've been thinking about what constitutes as being too long. personally if a character has a long history, i don't care, i just skim it. i literally just finished writing a 1,750 word history, and i'm sure some people would say that's way too long, but for people like myself and my primary rp partner that's...pretty average? i'd say? lmao

i'm just curious bc not every character of mine has a winding and soap opera backstory! i even try to be brief, i just have a lot to say at all times, and i don't know why as a writer that that is necessarily a bad thing or would discourage people from reading what i wrote. but that's just for applications. i tend to put far more effort into my applications because they're apps, and to me, i consider them to be basically a resume for me and my character. i want to put my best foot forward, and while i do not really equate length with quality (at least not anymore lol), i find it interesting that people see a longer app and are discouraged by it. 

as for posts, i do try to match posting length if i didn't start the thread. sometimes that doesn't always happen bc i have a lot to say, but that is my intention. but nothing sucks more than when i write a lengthy starter for a thread and i get a response that is a quarter of the length. i always wonder if what i put out wasn't quality, or if people are just not putting as much effort into it. do people see long posts and roll their eyes? bc to me, i see long ass posts, and i get hype bc i equate that with the poster being excited about the topic and that in turn, makes me more eager to respond. 

it's not often that i get a response that i think to myself and say, "damn this is long", and when i do it's usually from my primary rp partner bc she writes like a madwoman (affectionate) but i'm excited by this bc it means i have more to respond to. i always thought this was a universal experience, but reading thru that thread awhile back was really eye opening for me.
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I have a controversial opinion.

Before I get into it though - please note this is very general and I am not talking about anyone in particular.

I see people often talk about the negative aspects of rp and how the partners are too passive or the anxiety prevents them from initiating conversations or plots or causing a lack of communication. Yeah, that can be bad. But I hardly ever see the flip side mentioned?

I have had past experiences and have heard of others having them where I was expected to be so social and communicative that it felt far too demanding. If I didn’t dump paragraphs of plot ideas or dm a person every day, it was considered rude or that I wasn’t putting enough effort in to maintain relationships.

Yes - rp is inherently social. Yes - lack of communication is detrimental. But so are overtly demanding expectations.

But if i have to dump paragraphs of gushing or even just indulge people with having conversations daily - to “prove” I’m still interested - that’s also just not right?

Even social butterflies will have periods of time they don’t feel like talking.

So while the “not enough” is often addressed, people also need to accept that “too much” also exists and not treat it as a myth.

This is all coming from someone who struggles with “are my threads interesting or are people too nice”, so I get it. But sometimes people are just having a lull, or a bad day, and it isn’t personal even if it feels like it.

Everyone’s social batteries are different, too.

It shouldn’t be controversial, honestly. It should be normalized, and this may sound weird because I know it’s my thread that prompted this. So to clarify, in my circumstances at least, my rp partners just suddenly _stopped_. We never had long back and forth discussions. I never try to be their friend. I don’t expect them to reply asap to me… But IDK, there were just small details. Regardless, people experience that stuff differently. I know that I’m not normally one to care about this so I can’t really speak for the exp of others.

With that said, i have been on the other side, although idk if this particular instance would count bc the person turned out to he a lying pos. Anyway, our characters were a pairing in canon but not in the reincarnated setting. They kept sending ship pics and wanting to talk abt stuff. I replied whenever i want, just being chill. I thought we were cool. But apparently not, and after they trauma dumped to me about a bad exp with shipping before, i was honest and said i’m not interested in talking about the ship. I just liked it more if we focus on what’s happening in the setting. I dont want to talk about the fandom the way they do and… we’re not friends. It’s not that i dont wannt rp or thread but i have other things to do basically lmao

It seemed like they understood but apparently they started talking behind my back, trying to pit us staff against each other, and twisting my word about how i “dont like my character” (my exact word was his not my fav character from the series) and just overall guilt tripping me to dropping him. Came close honestly if not for this reveal.

So yeah. I think this is an extreme case of a vampiric rper who has nothing else to do and wants everything to go their way. But in general, i do let people know i love and am invested in the thread. If they’re not satisfied, why, i can easily write 1k why lol. Which is usually how i start with plotting lmao. If people think im not interested when i spew shit, idk what else to say
i have a lot of experience with this also, and it's extremely frustrating. i think a lot of the time, people use anxiety as an excuse- which i do think is probably a controversial opinion but i don't really care lmao. as someone who also has anxiety, it can be intimidating or whatever to talk to people- but ultimately it's something you just have to get over and that's something that is fundamentally what we have to do with anxiety anyway. i think we as people (and i'm not talking about our community now, i mean just kind of the like, mental health community online in large) are so caught up in validating everyone that we forget that anxiety is quite literally a disorder where 90% of the time our feelings are not valid and it's actively holding us back from doing things. take it from someone who's 27 fucking years old and cannot drive bc getting behind the wheel causes them to freak out. i think people use their mental health as an excuse so that others do all the emotional work for them, like feral was talking about imo. that might be a controversial statement, but having experienced it time and time again, it's something i've come to feel strongly about