I've been working on a surprise for my girlfriend on our MineCraft realm. I worked for an hour fixing the roof, decorating our bedroom, etc. that I almost forgot lunch! Whoops. ^^'

That moment when you are contemplating if something is okay character-wise cause after research it may not work. Now I am searching up the specific definition of tangible while wondering if this is kosher.

One RP habit I hate having is the whole “I will do x today.” Then not doing it. Even when it is justified, like me not feeling well or being unable to on account of muse. I just sit there and pout at myself a little. ^^’

Sometimes I like to check out old things I was interested in as a kid. It’s kinda fun to see how things have changed and what has remained the same.

Honestly, with commentary about skins; not necessarily related to dark/light modes. I do wish people had easy contact with people with sensitive eyes who can also check their accenting colours for being too bright and flag them. I have a friend who has been kind enough to let me "borrow their eyes" and check accent colours for me and flag anything that hurts their eyes. It is incredibly helpful, especially since with what Adira said, there are some work arounds for skin bases, not sure if it effects accenting colours though.

It's really nice when old communities come together to do role-play again. Even if it is a more slow and casual style. c:

Feb 25, 2024 22:07:28 GMT illidan main said:

i think the only time i've ever felt really "possessive" of a partner is when i was RP'ing a trans woman character getting with my partner's at-the-time cis male character, and some random person I didn't know in the guild started talking about how cute it would be if the male character that my character was having a very obvious will-they-won't-they thing going down with would be better getting with another cis male character, tbh. it felt kinda like a slap in the face, like??? my partner's character didn't even like that guy, and this stranger is talking about how much better it would be if they got together instead. it felt. weirdly rude, especially given my history of experiencing misogyny in RP, and transmisogyny on top of that.

it was less "possessiveness" i guess and more "oh, so I guess I'm chopped liver, huh. I guess this dynamic I'm writing with this character isn't good enough because she's not a cis man, huh."

What makes me sad is I have heard of this happening a lot. Not enough to make it 24/7, but enough where I hear about it happening to my friends. :/ I feel there could be a massive commentary on how people need to be more accepting in how people need to be more respectful about these matters. I will say, I hope you and your partner don't have to go through that again and overall, these biases cease since they can be extremely damaging.

— Adding to the shipping commentary, I just don’t wanna quote so I don’t have to snip.

I feel shipping really depends on person and attachment levels at times. I have higher attachment and usually if that person is close to me and their character is very important to mine, I won’t ship the character multiple times. I know that might be a little odd, but my characters live in my brain and are not against whining, threatening or getting increasingly upset while telling me who they’re one and only is. ^^’ Not that I mind since a lot of the time, I struggle to see that character with anyone else— and usually mark their ship/relationship sections as ‘no’, ‘off-site’ and ‘n/a’.

However, because of this I have not shipped with new people in a long time. This being said, I do try to communicate who is an ‘easy ship’ and who is a ‘hard ship’. There are times my characters lack hard preferences, so I communicate ‘these traits probably would make turn aways’ and leave it at that; mostly cause this character and myself am not picky about the romantic partner. Alternatively, my harder to ship characters or potential slow-burning ships I always say something. My character decides the mood, thoughts and feelings toward the other after all, so I don’t want to lock in if this particular and probably aloof character may pull a full 180.

I think in general there needs to be an understanding that sometimes ships will not work out. Sometimes the RP partner is not ideal for your caliber of ships (for example, I usually avoid writing nsfw content with random people) and other times the character decided to pull an abrupt ‘nope’ and change there mind. Nowadays, only lock out ins for ships I do are usually with my close friends and my girlfriend since I trust them to hear me out when things are not going well. Or additionally listen to my characters wants, needs, etc. I also find them willing to do ‘chemistry tests’ if we are not sure about the characters getting along. Whether it is due to mind being in a complicated situation or there’s.

So yeah, I think shipping can be a communication fiasco of people not realizing what they want from the shipping partner or alternatively tunnel visioning on what they want as the only ideal. It is why communicating wants, habits, character reactions, etc are important off the bat to establish a good basis. I also think there is no shame in just shipping with friends if you are worried about miscommunications or had bad experiences. People are people after all and at times with communicative hobbies there can be a lot of difficulties in finding people considered ‘right for your vibe’ or struggles depending on the scale of misunderstandings.

I hate the difficulty that involves building any baby furniture. It is a pain.

That awkward moment when you realize you can tweak some staff.