aliasleto, blobert, crow
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in turning divine, we tangle endlessly
Oh well! All pains pass. I wish I were a big enough person to forgive them, but ultimately I'm kinda petty and resent them for not at least giving me the benefit of the doubt. yeah, i imagine that there's a sense of betrayal that comes from a situation like that and i hope you know that if you go through a period of grieving this relationship, i think that's very okay and normal.
i do want to stress though that this isn't petty of you, and i also think that a lot of times we hold the concept of forgiveness as like an invitation to invite people that have wronged us back into our lives. something that i have learned through a lot of therapy over my life is that forgiveness is not something you give to someone else, it's something that you give to yourself. if you ever decide to forgive this person, let it be because you have reached a point where you feel you can let go of what happened and move forward. forgive the situation, and give yourself the peace that you did what you could, and that ultimately you did right by yourself. forgiveness is not a goal, and you should not feel pressure to reach it until it is truly right for you - if it ever is (and it still isn't petty of you if it never is).
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