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I can't help but feel that we are doing our fellow community members a disservice when we say that a community's health depends ultimately on site creators and not equally on our own efforts to foster healthy relationships and environments with each other. Particularly when it comes to monitoring our own behaviors and making sure we are promoting an inclusive community.
Ah I love this post, but particularly this part.

It's not going to help if I, the admin, roll out the red carpet for every new member and help them integrate but no other member raises a finger to actually do something. Or it's not going to help if I start a site and do my best to show interest in everyone that joins, but they decide they're not going to post ever or even finish apps.

There's only so much the admins can do, and the lack of people making sites has just as much to do with community behavior than "good admins." Noah Fence, but if you expect me to do all the work for a site and make the community good on my own, I'm just writing a book. I remember Beetle getting the advice about how "you have to be your site's own most active member" but like. Can you really blame him for losing interest in a site when he's the only one posting? At that point, why are you keeping a site open for people who very obviously do not care?

My point is, we can't keep foisting site failures off on admins. A site isn't just the staff team, and a community isn't just its leaders.
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the thing is more the usual crowd of "YES PLEASE MAKE THIS SITE I'M DYING FOR IT!!!" and then they join and uh. never even finish an app. even if the site has a relaxed atmosphere and a low activity requirement and an easy app.

and you notice this to be a repeat pattern with the person for. years.

there's some people i've known for 16+ years who have done this consistently to the point where some sites no longer bother trying to welcome them.

it's part of the site cycle and it happens, but you do need to learn who these people are before you make a site based off their interest, yanno?
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at the point where i won’t read anything labeled a booktok book on principle (myorar and mona awad novels aside…)
no bc why are they all bad. every fiction book (and even a few nonfic) have been utterly terrible. Like the actual quality of the writing is objectively terrible, but because it has porn and tropes people like, it becomes popular. there are very few people online i trust for reviews, and literally none of them read fiction. i am starving 
i like Ashley from Bookish Realm for my book recommendations, but yeah, otherwise I'm not on board with a lot of booktube or booktok influencers.

i need to find a horror booktuber that doesn't just read Stephen King and it might have to be me. this isn't a dig at stephen king btw-- just that if you're gonna recommend stephen king to me, i'm going to stare at you for 20 minutes and then say "wow i have never heard of that book, where did you discover it." i do not need stephen king recommendations. i know who he is. i have read so many of his books. you do not need to tell me a damn thing about him.

gonna plug Bookish Realm if you're interested in reading more bipoc stuff. i've found a ton of good books thru her.
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felt on the serial flakers thing. there are a lot of people that like the aesthetic of RP but don't actually ever. rp. it's part of why I wouldn't ever recommend making a site someone says they want to see in that thread. make a site you want to play on. don't bother catering to the community.

there's also a list of people whose sites i won't join because they close and open too many sites, so I feel like that's part of why some sites are Dead on Arrival. i would absolutely give these people a chance after the site's been open for a while, but I've been burned too many times by brand new sites made by serial site creators.
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fucc it gonna make an official thing for this over the next few weeks and possibly open it in july/august, but

i am seriously considering starting the RP concept about personified characters from the public domain with possible added long-deceased historical figures (Nobunaga, Joan of Arc, Charlemagne, Mansa Musa, Sappho, etc). Don't know exactly what concept I'm going for yet, but yeah.

some basic notes:
- Certain historical figures will be banned (anyone who died after 1900, anyone with a history of being used as an icon of white supremacist groups).
- leaning towards no FCs with a written appearance and aesthetic images (only images you have permission to use, such as stock images).
- Mythological personification is allowed. Modern religious depictions (such as Hindu gods or Biblical characters such as Moses) will be viewed with heavy scrutiny and are not recommended as first characters, and I'm gonna preemptively ban Jesus and the Prophet Muhammad.
- As for books/folklore/literature/film, the characters must be public domain. There is no real time limit on it other than that. We recommend not taking too much from copywritten versions of the character. Yes, this includes Steamboat Willie.
- Characters are not necessarily reincarnations, but rather heavily inspired by their counterparts. Mixing sources for families, rivalries, and ships is allowed and encouraged; maybe Heathcliff and Mr Darcy get to be horrible men together and make out about it. Maybe Zeus and Tutankhamen are father and son. Possibilities are endless.
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classic literature characters + mythologized historical figures personified RP in some funky post-apocalyptic setting

i realize this is probably just project moon but i really do think joan of arc getting his T shots would save him. also project moon doesn't have Javert or Jean Val Jean and this is a CRIME.
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Randomly wondering where all the canine rpg's went suddenly lol I remember before when I used to look around rpg sites that there was always oodles.
they don't really advertise on most regular directories. there's a ton, but they don't like jcink/proboards and thus don't advertise around them. self-hosted is the preferred MO of animal forum RPGs these days.
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If a fandom site copypastas information (I.E. magic system, basic lore) Wikipedia onto the site does it dissuade you from joining?
yeah. if you really don't want to write it, just link it.

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"what culture is my character"

if from earth: go to behindthename.com or do some googling to find a name that's either meaningful or that I like for my new OC that fits their cultural background.

if from a fantasy setting: try to make names that sound like the conlang that the character uses, or use a rarer name or misspelled name from a human culture.

if trans: consider their character, personality, and what sort of media they consume. factor in a cultural background if that's relevant. pick a name appropriately. try to avoid common trans names. trans people from a diaspora that's important to them may pick names from their estranged culture. trans people who are more online might pick an online handle or a fictional character's name. it really just depends on the character. imho the hardest but most rewarding names to choose because you really have to consider the fact that this is very likely a name the character chose for themselves, so it's gotta fit their established motivations and personal background.

if kobold: pick an object.

if from pokemon: pick something really dorky and on-the-nose.
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Interesting how so many discussions I’ve had about how “literate” is not a great term to use for RP end up with someone saying “well, it’s always been like this! And it’s not a problem” when, in the very same discussion, there’s been people talking about how it’s been a problem for them, or how the term just feels blah overall esp nowadays. “It’s always been like this so why change it” is such a bad justification on so many levels. And, in this case, it has been changing already in many circles anyways, but the term will probably still continue to residually float around in some way, which is fine enough, but I'm so glad so much of the emphasis has moved on in some communities
i think it's a great term but not for the reasons its defenders think it is. i think it's a great filter for who i don't want to rp with.

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