Oh, I've got a good one:

How about the number of people who come on to my sites, ask me if the admin account is "multiple people" because of the they/them pronouns, then get snooty when I tell them I'm one person.

Or how about the number of people who come into the cbox, make a point of telling me they won't be joining because we're "a bunch of SJWs" and that our fake genders are "ruining the site" and then leave.

Or how about the people who try to make characters who are bigoted as all get out to hide their OOC/real life opinions, which are just as bad.

I've run plenty of sites in the last four years, and this happens multiple times on every site I run. And that's not including the people who join, act nice, then start constantly misgendering myself and my other non-binary staffers, or pick fights over gender and sexuality when they see, in the first rule, that I only run inclusive, open-minded sites.

"It's just my opinion!" you don't get to spew opinions that are genuinely hateful. Go away.

Aug 6, 2018 21:04:18 GMT iota said:

Aug 6, 2018 18:04:55 GMT ani said:

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...Who does that? I don't even understand that mentality. Fortunately, I've never faced that issue (I don't disclose any gender/pronouns on my profiles so maybe that's why) but I can't even... imagine. Are you sure you don't know these people and they're just bullies/trolls from your past? Either way, it's probably time to block - and maybe check if they're using proxies.

Oh I have. I've blocked, I've tracked, I've made sure it's not the same people. If it was, I'd care a whole lot less. Trolls are easy compared to this.

Some people just love to be close-minded assholes. And personally, I disclose pronouns because my pronouns are important to me and my identity and I don't want them erased. A lot of the time it's just people from other sites who are just grumpy because the admin isn't someone they can "relate" to, as if my being non-binary has anything to do with my personality beyond "hey, it's they/them, not anything else, stop that."

> cbox with members chatting in it
> site with posts made today
guest: "is this site active"


but also real talk about "awwwww my claim is taken!" just. son. please don't. it sucks when your claims are taken, but like. can you not? i am not going to boot someone off a claim just because you want it, and no, complaining about it publicly will not make the claim magically open. and imo it's just entitled to expect for someone to go "oh sorry let me give you the claim i was using!" because you're whining about it. not to mention it's just rude to whoever currently has the claim.

every time either of these things happen, it takes 10 years off my life.



edit: i decided to come back to add

1) having to chase after members for activity checks. like just. bruh. bruh. i know you're active. you know you're active. you know how the rules work. just post in the hecking check. heck man, i don't even care if you meet the post requirements right now, you can edit the op, just post. i can't do anything to save you if you don't post.

2) when you're on a staff team of 3+ people but you're the only one who gets any work done in this dang house.

3) not getting to have a personal opinion anymore in public. like i know it's weird to think about but. like. just for example, i don't like the fact that disney's bought fox because i have problems with how the mcu is taking things right now and because the x-men tend to get shafted a lot when combined with the wider marvelverse and because i like variety in my life when it comes to superhero movies. i'm not trying to ruin anyone's day with that opinion, i respect how people are excited, and imo, there's some things i'm excited at the idea of too (i mean, hello, magneto having a hero crush on captain america, deadpool actually being able to interact with spiderman, sign me up????????). i just. miss the ability to voice a negative opinion about something without having people be turned off or think i hate it when i really don't. #staffarepeopletoo