it was in group chat and i dont think they literally meant it triggered them, but probably upsetting and enough to ruin your mood in the enzt 10 mins bc you didnt expect to get so pissed over a fictional character haha. We were a chill community that i’d like to think knew each other decently enough since we were rping for 6+ months there. It is nice to be able to hear and talk about these stuffs without feeling like you’re threadinng on eggshells, for sure

But this does remind me of that one time - in the same site - where a newbie came over and pointed out (politely) about how i was using the fc of an actor who passed. It was my first time using irl faces and i ddint know that was ethically inappropriate. Tbh at that moment, i thought i was honoring him but i was leaning on heeding that person’s opinion more bc i know i dodnt know much. I was also a staff at that time and when i quickly admitted i didnt know it and went over to remove the fc asap until i can replace it, they were genuinely stumped for a good minite bx of how easy it was. I could tell they were very nervous and expecting a negative reaction, and they were happy to see i didnt react that way.

They had a lot of courage to do that but it’s really sad people have to be this way when they’re doing the right thing. Because i get it. Especially when you’re pointing out to something to the staff.

Even with the ppl who i mentioned we were comfortable with each other, they were hesitant about criticizing the site system that was put in place for the premise’s main mechanic. I had to reassure them repeatedly i dont care - the point of a system is for the benefit of the community, not for my ego. Maybe bc i have a computer programmer mindset, but there’s no point of me making a code that’s supposed to fix your problem if youre on the mindset i’ll get hurt for sayong it didnt help you

I talked a log about me xD sorry about that but yeah. It’s great when ppl come forward with issues! And it’s sad when the whole issue with that is bc ppl are afraid of a negative reaction. As i always like to say, you cant control how others react.

Which is actually what the therapist of an old friend i had told them and they told me about it and now i talk about kt a lot

i have this built in my skin as “character notes” like cw for interaction, which i think is more relevant than individual cw.

I played a manipulative, gaslighting, endeavor-coded guy and halfway through the thread being a narcissistic douche to his daughter, someone following the family drama storyline mentioned conversationally how trigger he was and me and my rp partner were like holy shit yeah this guy needs a trigger warning. It seemed obvious but ooc chat have been generally like, laughing at how shitty the whole thing is. But when you’re reading ir or maybe even interacting with it, it can get crawl up to you. Now im proud of that bc that means i really played a terrible character well but also did feel very guilty not realizing that sooner.

So yeha i do believe there should be like that stuff in tumblr abt must reads before interactinf w/tge character.

Jumpscared myself from the emojis of my name

May your fav ship not turn into cousins

I used to be a mix of both depending on tge season but relying asap has been healthier and nicer feel. And natural?

It depends on my rp partner too + thread. I dont feel guilty focusing on select threads first before others. I knwo this might be controversial, but i dont think it’s a person’s problem if an rp partner reacts negatively to that. It doesnt mean i dont like them or anything. Imo ppl need to be more self-aware of their feelings of jealous/resentment. I sound arrogant lmao but i do mean that as a good advice. Sometimes ppl are more in the mood for something, and just be happy for them. You do your own thing too. You can’t control other people, and worrying over how others react is exhausting

Anyway! Basically,,, i reply fast. Sometimes faster than usual if it’s a thread im really vibing or we’re rapidfiring. I do this too to threads that have found its development spot and going to the finish line so i can progress the next batch next

I slept literally the entire day 👁️👄👁️

30 years later, they were cousins

Full transparency that i only skimmed posts and i havent slept BUT i did cook some noce pancakes and hottie dogs

I think ppl are familiar with the architect/gardener writer comparison. Basically we all are into writing but we approach it differently. Our minds are just built different. Considering that w ehave to collaborate online, not knowing a thing abt each other, it is impossible that no bumps along the way happen. In fact it is impossible to be able to understand and learn about how the other approaches creative writing given that you probably just met your rp partner for the first time

So imo we should be lenient with the stacks being set against us that makes this discussion very theoretical, based on our personal experiences rigged with miscommunications. Not saying it’s useless to talk abt it but just thought i should throw it out there for people to remember that it’s not ours or someone’s fault sometimes. Sometimes it’s the medium

yaa some ppl are v conscious of the source material of their fc, like fearing they may be too alike or yhe oc may end up offensive to the source. I watch a lot lf anime so i end up using fcs i know the source of. But my radar is also open to those i don’t know of as long as it fits the bill or i just like the aesthetics

I used to meticulously plan out my rping process and tried out different methods. I’ve gone through the “cycling” of character, trying to rationalize my muse, trying to make sure every bit is perfect, thinking carefully of every step…

Now it’s just no thoughts. I just try to enjoy it with everyone and not take it seriously, and it’s made rping a lot more fun - by Not thinking sbout it lol. I know it’s easier said than done, but rping really shouldnt be approached as a task or work. Actually i think that is the case for whatever creative project we do in our free time. It’s not about challenging yourself. Not about being better. Just doinf what you want and getting your mind off from the real stuff

maybe times have changed (or are slowly are) but mainstream anime fc rep gets bad reputation bc non-para rpers pick them as their first choice. Anime is easily how people learn about rping and they naturally gravitate to using the cool protag who is either very kind and brave or sasuke.

I belatedly realized my post may have came off as a gripe lol. I got used to posting random thoughts everywhere in this site but tgat was just a random thought. No one said i was cringe for using mainstream fc. Tho i am def cringe 100%%

This isn't in any way a shade to anyone who prefers to write in a calm and peaceful settings. We have different moods for everything. In what we read, in what we play, and of course, what we write.

But I know sites focused on conflicts and grand concepts can get too "shounen-like", far from reality and stepping into the zone of fantasy beyond us ordinary people. Things like global politics, inter-dimensional combat, ideals and principles with karmic weight, and things like destiny. I can totally get why they seem over-the-top to step in. Like, why can't we have something simple and easy to comprehend? Why can't we focus on making giant pizzas before a nice autumn backdrop instead?

Because, to me, the value of making a giant pizza in a troubled, chaotic world far outweighs doing it in a safe and uncomplicated setting.

When I join sites with tension and clear conflict, I don't focus on tackling larger-to-life problems. What I love about conflict-focused settingss is that I can depict how ordinary life changes, and how it persists no matter the circumstances.

Growing up, I've always hated slice-of-life. I thought they were boring. I like action. I grew up watching space drama with Gundam and existential angst from Digimon. But older now, I realized the best part about them that I liked the most was when they acted like me. Like human beings. Despite these global crisis and these supernatural things beyond them, I can see how friendship persists. How family bonds continue to thrive. How people seek normalcy, and how people truly live with a little light in them amidst dark times. I love thes stories because they teach me - remind me - of values and moments I take granted of IRL.

To some, it's a mood whiplash. It seems silly, unrealiastic. But imo the truth is, edginess and silliness are two sides of the same coin. When I was saying goodbye to my dog, sobbing and crying my heart out, his last moments was to sneeze at me and chomp on reese chocolate relentlessly. As a writer, you might find that painful. You didn't get to make it a perfect scene to really make the audience cry. Or to make it the perfect flashback to drive the character further on the edge, bit by bit. But I think we shouldn't focus too much on the reader reaction. Just more humanity, not because it's realistic or relatable. But because humanity makes things more unexpectd.

I don't know how else to go on from this topic, but I just wanted to share my thoughts. Maybe reflecting a bit, as every writer does. Made me think about things I like to read/watch/consume, and why I write certain things. Feel free to hijack this thread with your own experience writing in "edgy" sites!