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How does one go about silencing their inner critic? That's a secret technique I wanna know. Because I think more so than time constraints, this is what's keeping me from writing (including for RPs) as much as I would like to.
Specifically for me, often I just try to ignore it and write anyways.

I think that even if my writing is the worst, or if say, my symbolism is a bit too heavy handed or something, if I'm not writing I’m not gonna get any better. This is assuming you mean the type of inner critic that stops you from writing entirely due to whatever reasons you may have, and not the one you use to edit a post when proofreading. Currently, I’m just trying to mould my hateful ‘inner critic’ into something that’s more useful — like, why do I feel this way about this line, am I being as fair to myself as I would be when reading someone else’s writing? Going the curiosity route may help, as it does for me, because sometimes I am being so dreadfully unfair towards myself, or it's because life is stressful and that just seeps into everything sometimes.

I’m speaking about writing broadly here, but there /is/ that extra social pressure I feel about exposing my writing to other people in a collaborative way that makes this critic worse, I feel. RP being a social hobby does bring pressure that my writing my novels doesn’t nearly as much. But again, we’re all pretty much on the same page, and RP isn’t about perfect final drafts, it’s about making a story together.

There’s also asking people you RP with for their thoughts on your writing. Or even a friend who isn’t involved. Be careful not to entirely rely on the praise of others though, I feel like it’s important to create a strong core even when there isn’t anything positive being said from sources outside yourself. I’m personally bad about giving and receiving compliments in particular, but I’m working on it.

One thing to keep in mind: people wouldn't write with you if they truly thought your writing was the worst, even if they don't say any extra praise about it. Thinking this helps push me to write, even when I don't like my writing that much.
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Finally starting to write posts again, I missed it

Recently I had a dream about a reply to a thread that doesn’t exist, but I may make it exist. It also featured video game enemies from a game I have been playing lately and I didn’t even question their appearance until I thought more on it, I just sorta accepted those enemies as part of the site’s world.

Was feeling sentimental lately about one of my first RP sites I was a member of. It was on Proboards so last I checked it’s actually still around and I can read my old posts...won’t comment much on those, I was young back then so there’s no need to be harsh. I did see a lot of my less-developed writing style in those posts back then, so much has changed and so much has stayed. I had uknowningly made a character that had /a lot/ in common with another, and the player had noticed this and private messaged me more or less saying “do you wanna thread? They have a lot in common and so their dynamic may be interesting”. I love how someone saw the similarities as an opportunity, the thread I had with their character was the longest I had there, I must have had a blast with it

Makes me wish I had saved all of my old posts in some way... ah, well
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Interesting how so many discussions I’ve had about how “literate” is not a great term to use for RP end up with someone saying “well, it’s always been like this! And it’s not a problem” when, in the very same discussion, there’s been people talking about how it’s been a problem for them, or how the term just feels blah overall esp nowadays. “It’s always been like this so why change it” is such a bad justification on so many levels. And, in this case, it has been changing already in many circles anyways, but the term will probably still continue to residually float around in some way, which is fine enough, but I'm so glad so much of the emphasis has moved on in some communities
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I was recently thinking about why I don't get drawn to RP sites easily from ads/interest checks and talked to a few friends about it. Image-only ads have been around for long time, admittedly, but I always preferred ones that had at least some text. I like to know some information about a site before clicking a link, and sometimes interest checks for sites can serve as that, but sometimes not. I can't really get that hyped over images, especially as I'm feeling more iffy about the lack of credit. It does take effort to make graphics looks good, I can understand that since I've been there, but it says little to me if there's not much else accompanying it.

Which is why I'm fond of site searches/wanted ads/stuff like that. When I post a site search, I can get a staff member or a member who will tell me information about a site related to what I'm actively seeking. Sometimes I just directly ask someone about their site if I have a decent rapport about them; I generally don't mind it when someone I know introduces me to their site either. Discord forum advertisements tend to have more information but I generally just don't join hub servers, and compared to forum directories, said ads can get buried and unsearchable very quickly due to the nature of those channels. The downside of site searches are that I always know I'm missing out on sites by relying on them alone, so I do lurk around sometimes. And I do understand many of the whys staff may not want to even bother with responding to wanted site searches. It gets demoralizing almost-directly trying to get someone to join with no reassurance that it would actually happen, and no feedback, and so on. And it's tiring running a site and then posting ads and then there's life too... so on and on, as I said.

I was looking at some of my old skins and one I worked on for fun back in 2021, and it's satisfying making something nice that suits my preferences. I don't think every RP forum admin/designer/etc. should suddenly bend to my preferences, nor would I want that to ever happen. There's a place for everything, I just wish there were more places sometimes. I'm happy with the RP forums I've found, and I can compromise on a few things. If all of those places close, I would probably just open up one of my old projects, but I'm in no rush to RP more, especially with what I have going on. x.x

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Slower-paced RP sites are definitely around, it just takes some looking for them, speaking as someone who tends to linger on one or two sites for long-term. It’s worth combing through “old” directory posts and looking at sites, plenty of these sites don’t get as actively advertised because the staff there are busy etc.

This also goes for slow-burn roleplayers and the like, I find that I'm more likely to find them on older and more slow-paced sites sometimes, instead of brand new ones

Another way I’ve used to find people who post at a similar pace, or won’t rush you, is to post RP partner searches/site wanted ads on directory sites. I don’t think there’s actually an extreme lack of patient people etc. but because they tend to be busier, they are harder to find/quieter in general

On the other hand, on sites that are kinda omni-RP communities that mainly focus on 1x1 RP, I find that “slow” posters are more common, so when I was lacking for people to write with at first, I looked there

Because yeah, I really cannot keep up with fast-paced sites much anymore...I don’t think I ever actually did, even back in the old days. I’ve tried to compromise and join sites that had tighter activity requirements or, while didn’t have those activity requirements, had the overall energy of being faster-paced, and it just didn’t work out for me. It’s very possible to find people and places with similar values and thinking, though, even if it takes a while or some trial-and-error. It isn't a bad thing to try out new places and end up figuring they're not for you. There's so many layers here...forums with settings I'd want to write + with a community I fit in with + with a pace I can keep up with and so on, but I've had success without compromising too much on any of that
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Unsure if I actually want to take a break or if it's depression demotivating me and going "actually you don't like this, go be sad NOW"

I do know that I have an easier time writing RP posts when I'm in a better mood at any rate, it's not really one of my escapes

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spending the entire evening working on something and then deciding I don't actually like it in the end is a pretty terrible feeling even if most of the time I'm pretty relaxed about it. oh well, it's part of the process and all that, it will not stop me from trying again
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In the earliest possible hours of the morning: Wait! I have update my RP profiles, create 10000 images, and do other maintenance-related things right now.

...I mean, I'll take the energy when I can get it at this point considering how it's been for me lately.
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