The writing itch needs some scratching

I think many people here are old-fogies in the space and have many different aged partners and the like when it comes to the rp.

I have some who are from 20-30+ - and I noticed no single person technically has wildly different things that we expect in our friend groups - which is like in total probably 30 people or so. However, we all have a borderline list of wants for long term writing partners - IC/OOC difference (So no living vicariously through your characters (outside of like job we think would want to have), the characters are not real and do not make their own decisions so therefore we're not at fault, someone's character insults ours, we don't take offense, etc) - reading comprehension, plotting (or not plotting but only with not plotters if that's your game), profiles vs no profiles, communication, etc - and these never overlap with partners that don't share this set of traits in the shorter term partners we have.

I know everyone's not like my knitting group of old aunties and like I wouldn't want there to be but I just had an epiphany cause a old woman took me to her zoom book club since one of them was having cancer treatment and an old woman hit me over the head over the internet to say what I said above as "some people want tacos and some people want coffee and it's cause some of us get the s---'s with tacos - you're making this way too complicated." and I am feeling attacked with this description of rp partners.